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A happy report of being accident free

Due to my daughter’s autism, potty training has been a major challenge for her and I. I had the difficult time getting her to transition from diaper to pull-up, then an even harder time getting her to transition from pull-up to panties. It’s a sensory thing, plus it’s an autism thing. Change is something a child with autism can’t handle. Then the sensory part, well, the pull-up feels way different than the diaper. The panties feel even funnier than the pull-up. it’s just uncomfortable, which can also lead to meltdowns and stress, mostly for her. I have a lot of patience with her.

It took a lot of bribing and coaxing to get her to switch over, but she did. It cost quite a bit of stickers and some M&Ms, but whatever helped.

Imagine, if you will, the feeling of a scouring pad being pulled ever so lightly against your skin. I know it sounds a bit awkward describing it this way, but this is how some things feel to someone with autism, especially someone with a sensory disorder. It is definitely an unnatural feeling, yet that’s what they experience. I had gotten her a cute little Red Sox jersey. She loves it, except she can’t wear it without having a regular t-shirt underneath the jersey. The jersey on her skin feels uncomfortable. Like wearing a wool sweater without having a t-shirt underneath it. So, not only is the change in going from diaper, to pull-up, to panties hard for her, it takes some time for her to get accustomed to the new feelings of each item.

Next came the success of actually going in the potty, which took a few years. When she was one, I had purchased a little pink princess potty, to which she loved, though she would rather look at it, than she would sit on it. It chimed each time you would push it’s little jeweled lever, which was supposed to resemble flushing the potty, but it was more of a cute little accessory that was only for looks. She found it rather amusing and giggled each time it chimed, that she would sit in the floor and continuously push the lever down.

She still wouldn’t sit on it. I continued to try though.


For the past several months, her teachers at daycare and I have been working with her on using the potty, the real one, as well as wearing panties. I would take her to school wearing panties, but had to make sure she had a few pairs of pants, panties, socks, and another pair of shoes, sometimes I would slip an extra shirt in there, as there’s been times where it was needed too. Oh, yeah, she peed all the way down her legs, soiling everything, including her shoes.

No matter how many times we took her and placed her on the potty, she would still have an accident. It was just a continued work in progress. Yesterday, however, something changed. She actually went the entire day without wearing a pull-up and without having an accident. I couldn’t be more happier for my baby girl! Although, she still has to be taken to the bathroom, I’m sure it won’t be long now before she begins to start taking herself when she feels nature calling, before nature does call.

Next on the list is for her to successful do number two in the potty, instead of holding it. Since she started wearing panties, she’s been holding number two until she can’t hold it any more and has an accident.

Small steps, still lead to great successes!

Down the Loo It Goes

My daughter has a fascination with the toilet, but only the one at home. Something about throwing something into the porcelain potty, mostly one of her toys or her toothbrush, then pull the handle and watch it disappear. Is it the disappearing act that allures her? If so, I could pull up David Copperfield on youtube and have her watch him for a few hours. Or is it the sound of the water being sloshed around the bowl, before it is drained out, or watching the bowl fill back up with water again? I’m not sure what it is about the thing, but it seems to call her attention to it and for some reason, she has to throw something in and flush it down.

I usually come running once I hear the flush, only making it in time to hear her gasp and yell out, “Oh no, my toy!” I repeatedly tell her that I can’t rescue whatever it is that she flushed down the loo, it’s gone forever, but this never helps. It doesn’t help to put her in the sad spot (a certain spot in the house where she sits when she’s in trouble). I’ve put door knob covers on the bathroom door, but the door handle is too small for the cover and she can tear the cover apart.

Usually she’ll toss something into the loo that will pass all the way through, but there’s been a few times she’s thrown in something a little bigger that won’t fit through the loopty part under the bowl and becomes lodged, clogging it up. After having to remove the toilet from the floor a second time, I decided to buy a lock for the toilet itself. I just hope that whomever walks into the bathroom isn’t in a big hurry and let’s me give them a quick instruction on how to unlock the toilet so that they can use it.


The first lock was a cheap ($2.97) latch that sticks onto the toilet bowl and lid. It was the only one this store had, so I bought it and took it home to try it out. You have to have the right toilet for this or it won’t stay stuck on the thing and even small hands could remove it without any trouble at all. My toilet wasn’t the right toilet for this one and I could NOT get the thing to stay on it, no matter where I placed the thing. Time to go to another store…actually, look online first, then go to another store. The second lock was just a little more pricier ($12), but it works. Plus, there’s no worry on whether someone forgets to lock the lock or not as it automatically locks itself back into place, the person who last uses the toilet just has to remember to shut the lid in order for said lock to do its job.


Time for a few test runs with the miniature version of me. Oh yes, she’s not called mini me for nothing, I’ve flushed my share of things down the loo, usually those things belonged to my mom, like her contacts for instant and in the early 80’s those things were pricey.

I was about to start cooking dinner, but decided it was time for her to sit on her little potty first. She’s still potty training. She sits down and I walk away, but casually peek around the corner and watch her with curiosity. I see her look at the big toilet and see that she notices the new lock I put on there. She reaches for the lid, but can’t get the thing opened. Suddenly, she glares at it, knowing her fun has been had. I giggled, did a mental jump for joy, then walked away. No more flushing things down the loo, no more calling family members over to unclog it. Maybe I can stop buying her toothbrushes in bulk.

Toilets Aren’t Always So Wonderful


I woke up this morning to the sound of a toilet being flushed. A few seconds later I heard my daughter shouting, “My toy!” I cringed as I quickly jumped out of bed and headed towards the bathroom. Lately my daughter has been flushing items down the loo. I’ve been trying to tell her that mommy can’t retrieve whatever she flushes down the potty, so once she sticks it in there and pulls the handle to flush it, it’s gone forever.

I walk in the bathroom and immediately she’s pointing at the potty saying, “My toy! My toy!” I tell her once again, “It’s gone baby. Don’t you remember mommy telling you, once you flush something down the potty, it isn’t coming back?” She only stares at me with a frown, then looks at the potty and starts to cry. I pick her up and remind her again that she has to stop flushing things.

I thought I was being clever and putting one of those door knob covers on the bathroom door. I had removed it off of her bedroom door, thinking it was okay. I had not thought about the bathroom door being left open during the night as my grams and I routinely use the bathroom. My daughter is usually the first to get up. Obviously she saw I had removed her door knob cover and let herself out of her room.

I know that there are potty locks, but where do I find one? I’ve searched a few stores, Target and Walmart, but haven’t seen any. I didn’t want to keep the bathroom locked as I want my daughter to be able to let herself into the bathroom to use the potty. A lot of times I cannot be in there, hovering over her, waiting on her to actually pee. Those with kids know how that usually goes. She has her very own little potty, but she has a habit of flushing things down the bigger potty as well as turning the facet water on and washing stuff down that pipe too.

Another Morning Meltdown

Every morning, for the past few weeks, my daughter has been having these meltdowns when it’s time to get out the door. Since she has to have one specific toy to take to daycare with her, I already have it sitting with my book bag, all ready for us to grab and go. Now she doesn’t want to just take that one toy, she has to search for more to take, which takes much longer to get out the door. I’m lifting bed sheets, looking under the bed, through the toy box, in the doll house, around the TV, just looking for one specific toy she has to have. You may think this is just too much, that I should just let it be. But how would you handle it? If I didn’t let her take this specific toy she’ll immediately throw herself on the floor and begin hitting herself…yes, these are her meltdowns. I’m not talking just light slaps, she has her hand in a fist and hits herself in the head or on her arms.

It doesn’t stop there. Once we found this toy, she runs outside and tosses it off the porch then sits down hard and begins to cry and hit herself because she wants the toy she tossed. I’m uncertain to how I should handle this but to go pick it up and give it to her. That only makes it worse as she wants to be the one picking it up. If I were to pick it up and hand it to her, her screams get louder and she hits herself harder. I then start to get embarrassed thinking the neighbors are probably thinking I’m hurting this poor child. I’m not physically hurting her and I won’t.

I’m at a lost for how to handle this situation. It makes me late for class each day, no matter how early I get us up and ready. She’s also become resilient in having me change her clothes. She refuses to use the potty anymore, so it’s back to diapers, to which she won’t let me change.

It’s like every month a new thing in her Autism emerges and it tests me to how I can cope or to how I can handle it. Some of the things I can handle and have showed her teachers at daycare how they too can handle the situation. But now it’s getting to a point I’m just stressed and completely worn down to tears and feel like having a meltdown myself. I know that can’t be the option. I have to stay strong and keep trudging and pray that I get through the rest of the day.

My daughter is only 3 1/2 but will she grow out of this? Or will it get worst? Parents with Autistic children I’m seeking your help, direction, tips, encouragement in how to handle situations such as these. What do you do to help your child get ready in the morning? Do you have a special routine? A particular way of going through your morning to insure a meltdown doesn’t happen?

Do the Potty Dance

For the past couple of weeks my daughter has actually been using the potty. What’s even better is that she tells me that she has to go potty. I have a little song and dance that I do when she’s sitting on the potty and a song and dance I do when she’s used the potty. It’s quite entertaining to her that she even sings along or when she needs to potty she starts to sing the potty song.

I have been trying to potty train her for the past couple of years now; she’s three. All kids are different and won’t be fully potty trained at the age of one or two, it takes each child awhile to get accustomed to the potty and what it’s used for.

Since my daughter started doing speech therapy she has learned more words and has even started putting those words together. I think this has helped her with the potty training process. There was a communication barrier, I couldn’t understand my daughter as she mostly babbled, speaking a total of ten words if not a few more. I now think she’s able to understand me and I’m starting to understand her.

At first I tried having her sit on it, she was terrified of it, so it took a few short introductions before she was comfortable being near her small pink Princess potty. I then had her sitting on it sans diaper. After several months of doing that she actually peed in it. I got excited, clapped and cheered, then hugged her. Though I think I may have scared her a little as she started to point at the pee in the potty and began to cry. She wouldn’t go near the potty for a week after that. So I began to re-introduce her to the potty again. This time she had to have the company of almost every toy in her toy box. Her potty sits next to the tub, which is at the perfect height for her to drive her cars up and down, or causally walk her animals around the rim of the tub.

The only thing that upsets me about potty training my child is the people telling me how I should do this and what and when. These people don’t deal with children with special needs or with children with certain Autistic behaviors. It’s great your child potty trained at an earlier age than my daughter, thank you for telling me, but when my daughter is ready, she’ll let me know. At first my daughter was terrified of the potty because of the noise it made when it flushed. Now she’s perfectly fine with it flushing. She even enjoys flushing the potty on her own free will, especially after she’s dropped something in it. She’s still terrified of sitting on the bigger potty, but has no problem sitting on her own personalized Princess potty.

We’re moving in small steps, but we’re moving at the speed that’s best for her. She’ll be potty trained soon, maybe not right now, but soon. I’m just happy she’s finally able to understand the concept of what her potty is used for.

Finally, she uses the potty

This morning my lil girl woke up with a dry diaper; this is normal for her. I stripped her down and sat her on her potty, all the while singing and coaching her to pee pee in the potty; normal for me. After about ten minutes of the two of us just sitting in the bathroom, I decided to leave her there to do her business, while I finished making breakfast.

I’m in the kitchen putting everything on the table, when I noticed lil miss running around the living room still naked as the day she came into this world. I then hear my grandmother yell from the bathroom, “She used her potty!” I immediately dropped everything I’m doing and poked my head around the kitchen door frame and said, “What?!” I thought I heard what she said, but I wanted to make sure. Grandma repeated herself. I ran into the bathroom to see this for myself. I started jumping and cheering. My little girl came running into the bathroom to see what we’re doing. I immediately congratulate and hug her, then said how proud I am of her. I clapped and said, “You went pee pee in the potty!” She’s clapped and smiled and jumped up and down with me with just as much excitement; though I’m sure she probably thought Mommy was just being silly again.

I dumped her little potty into the big potty, rinsed and dumped again, then allowed her the honors of flushing the toilet. She flushed and watched it go down. She clapped and said, “All gone.”

Too some it may not seem such a big deal, but to me it is a job well paid off. It’s the constant daily battle to get your child to sit on the potty, then the struggle to get them to stay there long enough to do something. I kept thinking to myself, “Does she even understand what her potty is used for?” When she finally used her potty, it became the highlight of my day! More like, the highlight of my week! This was the first time for her to use the potty without me there to coach her, without anyone in the bathroom with her. I couldn’t be happier for my lil girl. Now, for her to keep this up.

Potty Training

I love reading stories about other parent’s potty training their lil ones. I not only get tips and/ or ideas, but I also get entertained too. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not laughing at the parent(s) and their potty training blues, I’m laughing along with the parent; though I’m sure they weren’t laughing until they posted their blog or story, where ever I read it.

You see, I am trying to potty train my lil girl; she’ll be three in a month. I’ve been working on this for over a year now. So far she’s peed once, and went poo twice. She can tell me when she goes poo poo, but only after she’s done so. I playfully tell her that she needs to tell mommy before she goes poo poo in her diaper, so she can be a big girl and go poo poo in the potty. This only starts her singing the little jingle I’ve been singing to her all year long while she’s on the potty. “Pee pee in the potty, poo poo in the potty!”

When I first started potty training her she had to carry a bucket full of toys with her, thinking it was playtime in the bathroom. At first I tried to tell her no, but that didn’t turn out so well. It was a full on tantrum to which she won. As the months went by the number of toys started to dwindle. Now she carries one or two if not any to the potty with her.

While she sits on her little pink Princess potty, I’ll sit on the big potty and actually pee and say, “Listen, mommy is peeing in the potty like a big girl. Can you go pee pee in your potty too?” This doesn’t work either. You’re probably thinking, ‘how awkward.’ Honestly, I’ll try anything if it’ll help. If her seeing how the potty works helps, then I’ll try it. I’ve even allowed her to flush the toilet a few times, which to a child is entertainment. Though, I tell her that if she goes potty in the potty for me, then she can flush the toilet. She doesn’t quite understand the sticker chart or getting snacks for using the potty, so those are out…for now.

Do you have any tips or ideas that may be useful? Or a potty training story you would like to share?